"Appearance is something absolute, but reality is..." - Quote by Dalai Lama
Appearance is something absolute, but reality is not that way - everything is interdependent, not absolute. So that view is very helpful to maintain a peace of mind because the main destroyer of a peaceful mind is anger.
More by Dalai Lama
More on Reality
“The instant field of the present is at all times what I call the 'pure' experience. It is only virtually or potentially either object or subject as yet.”
“I take this evanescence and lubricity of all objects, which lets them slip through our fingers then when we clutch hardest, to be the most unhandsome part of our condition.”
“When I waked, I cried to dream again”
More on Interdependence
“All are needed by each one; Nothing is fair or good alone.”
“The body and mind are dependent.”
“Really, the fundamental, ultimate mystery -- the only thing you need to know to understand the deepest metaphysical secrets -- is this: that for every outside there is an inside and for every inside there is an outside, and although they are different, they go together.”