#Boundaries Quotes

“At times the whole world seems to be in conspiracy to importune you with emphatic trifles. Friend, client, child, sickness, fear, want, charity, all knock at once at thy closet door and say,—'Come out unto us.' But keep thy state; come not into their confusion. The power men possess to annoy me I give them by a weak curiosity. No man can come near me but through my act.”

“Lovers should guard their strangeness. If they forgive too much, all slides into confusion and meanness.”

“They say there is a doorway from heart to heart, but what is the use of a door when there are no walls?”

“Give yourself more opportunities for privacy, when you are not bombarded with duties and obligations. Privacy is not a rejection of those you love; it is your deserved respite for recharging your batteries.”

“Life is about balance. Be kind, but don’t let people abuse you. Trust, but don’t be deceived. Be content, but never stop improving yourself.”

“When love is not accepted move on;when love is not appreciated walk away;hopefully time will teach what real, true love is.”

“People treat us the way we teach them to treat us.”

“Conflict cannot survive without your participation.”

“You’ve gotta keep control of your time, and you can’t unless you say no. You can’t let people set your agenda in life.”

“The only boundaries we have are in form. There are no obstacles in thought.”

“I only allow that which is good into my life. No one can depress you. No one can make you anxious. No one can hurt your feelings. No one can make you anything.....other than what you allow!”

“Say to Yourself when Someone Else is Criticizing U, 'What U Think of Me is None of My Business'”

“Relationships are like traffic lights. And I just have this theory that I can only exist in a relationship if it's a green light.”

“There is nothing wrong with avoiding people who hurt you.”

“I never give advice unless someone asks me for it. One thing I've learned, and possibly the only advice I have to give, is to not be that person giving out unsolicited advice based on your own personal experience.”

“I think everyone should approach relationships from the perspective of playing it straight and giving someone the benefit of the doubt. Until he establishes that this is a game. And if it's a game, you need to win. The best thing to do is just walk away from the table.”

“Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.”

“I can't deal with someone wanting to take a relationship backward or needing space or cheating on you. It's a conscious thing; it's a common-sense thing.”

“You can't lead me down that rode.”

“Darkness is your candle.Your boundaries are your quest.”

“Any truth is only true up to a certain point. When one oversteps the mark, it becomes a non-truth.”

“Morality, like art, means drawing a line someplace.”

“If you want to be a doormat you have to lay yourself down first.”

“Don't ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up.”

“Good fences make good neighbors.”

“I don't want anyone who doesn't want me.”

“Don't take on things you don't believe in and that you yourself are not good at. Learn to say no. Effective leaders match the objective needs of their company with the subjective competencies. As a result, they get an enormous amount of things done fast.”

“People are effective because they say 'no,' because they say, 'this isn't for me.'”

“You have filled my tea with lumps of sugar, and though I asked most distinctly for bread and butter, you have given me cake. I am known for the gentleness of my disposition, and the extraordinary sweetness of my nature, but I warn you, Miss Cardew, you may go too far.”

“If somebody is really trying to take your head off with a baseball bat - I don't know how long you're supposed to stand there and turn the other cheek, so he or she can get a better angle at taking your head off.”

“When you forgive somebody, it doesn't necessarily mean you want to invite them to your table.”

“When you're the most successful person in your family, in your neighborhood, and in your town, everybody thinks you're the First National Bank, and you have to figure out for yourself where those boundaries are.”

“Reduce your humanity through what Jules Feiffer called little murders. The minute I hear someone trying to demean me, I know that that person means to have my life. And I will not give it to them. When a person commits these little murders, and then you catch him or her at it, he or she might say, "Oh, I didn't mean it." But make no mistake: It is an assassination attempt.”

“I'm grateful to be of use. I will not be misused or abused, but I will be of use to anybody.”

“Do not waste your time with people who have shown you they really mean no good for you.”

“Declare today "sacred timeoff limits to everyone, unless invited by you. Take care of your personal wants and needs. Say no, graciously but firmly, to others' demands."”

“Acting is about going into the space, and there are just some places that I'm not willing to go.”

“You teach people how to treat you.”

“It is better to control oneself, if one can, and not hit back. But on certain occasions, it is imperative to defend oneself. I don't think it's fair to ask anybody not to defend herself or himself.”

“Every person needs to take one day away. A day in which one consciously separates the past from the future. Jobs, family, employers, and friends can exist one day without any one of us, and if our egos permit us to confess, they could exist eternally in our absence. Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for. Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us.”

“Laugh and dare to try to love somebody, starting with yourself. You must love yourself first, of course, and you must protect yourself so that nobody overrides you, overrules you, or steps on you. Just say, 'Just a minute. I'm worth everything, dear.'”

“No not me go find someone else to bring down”

“Men must be decided on what they will not do, and then they are able to act with vigor in what they ought to do.”

“Don't bring negative to my door.”

“Let men decide firmly what they will not do, and they will be free to do vigorously what they ought to do.”

“I always had a deep affection for Malcolm and felt that he had a great ability to put his finger on the existence and the root of the problem. He was an eloquent spokesman for his point of view and no one can honestly doubt that Malcolm had a great concern for the problems we face as a race.”

“Everybody is always tugging at you. They'd all like a sort of chunk out of you. I don' think they realize it, but it's like 'grrr do this, grr do that' But you do want to stay intact-intact and on two feet.”

“If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell shouldn't schedule a meeting with me before 10am.”

“Cutting negative people from my life does not mean I hate them, it simply means I respect me.”

“The boundaries of bodies are the least of all things.”